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LETS GET IT ON...tIMBO

OKay okay okay...sorry to put in my but I think this a topic we should walk away from guys. Please Cap...pretty please Cap!? Lol, I think we gotta just walk away and let it go...

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QUOTE(deepdiver32073)I know where you're coming from Pete.  My father was (and is still) very demanding, but I know it's because he loves me and wants me to be the best I can be.  I've disappointed him many times in my life... that's natural, it's part of the dynamic.  He's come down hard on me some of those times, but I've never stopped loving him or stopped thinking he loved me.  It doesn't make him a prick (to quote another) just because he takes me to task.  I have to do the same thing with my son and it doesn't mean I don't love him and he doesn't stop loving me either. It's all part of that tough love you have to have when you're a parent.  Keep trying to do your best... take what your father says as loving guidance, but don't lose track of who you are either. At some point you have to go your own way and you have to take responsibility for your actions. Part of becoming a responsible, productive adult.  But NEVER think your Dad doesn't love you.  Keep those ties tight!
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Thank you deep /:D" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":D" border="0" alt=":D" />d: diver . :tul: . My father has often been "harsh" on me simply so I'll realise that there are not many people in the world as nice as my mother. When my father is good he's REALLY good, I enjoy talking to him, sometimes even more than my mum, who I'm usually more comfortable with talking about things (I can be more silly).
I know I love my Dad, because even when my mind has been completely askew in terms of reality, if he got mad at me and threatened to hit me, I wouldn't think I'd get a stinging arm or bruise, but that my arms would get ripped off with blood splattered on the walls- I still wouldn't hit him back, because I love him and I know deep down inside he loves me to. It's just that I am intimidated by his anger and temper, especially that "wild look" he shows when mad.

And ironically I inherit the same level of temper.

But I think that he gets mad because he doesn't like seeing me as a bubbling trembling mess. If I speak honestly, directly, to the point, and listen to him, he respects that and talks to me properly.

Such a case happened this very night. Some fuck hit our parked car while going round a corner, and knocked the front indicator light. My sister threw a tantrum (various reasons but all spurring from one unrelated thing) and was not rational at all. She was completely pathetic, and my father wouldn't have a bar of it when she bawled down the phone to him, he just blasted her then didn't speak to her.


I heard the phone ring several times, and realised he was calling. I ignored my sister and called my Dad up to discuss the situation. He ws pleased and helped me with what to do. I found the problem and told him the result (the connection got pulled out when the light was hit, and the filament broke), and again he spoke in a civil, respectful, and pleasing tone. We worked out what to do and finished the conversation. My sister was muttering "I need to speak to him!" but I knew she was being irrational, which was proved when she punched my arm and yelled at me when I hung up the phone. I knew my Dad didn't want to put up with her while in that state.

And so I realised my Dad also gets mad when I get sort of like that also. You just don't want to deal with someone being so pathetic and irrational, and if you are short-tempered, well it will set you off!


And so, that conversation and realisation means that our ties are becoming tighter, which is good.


Look capnstick, I'm not gonna shoot you down :ak47: :westside: , or smash your head :bam: , or have a spat :fy2: :spat: .

I ain't gonna tell you to :gth: or :fuckoff:

I'm not even gonna call you capnshit.

Why? Because I Don't --> :ihy: .


I'm gonna just leave this go, as luvbugin said.

I'm glad that things seem to be improving for you Pete. I know in my own case, there was a fairly long period (teens through 20s) where we didn't get along hardly at all. As I matured, I found myself appreciating his point of view much more. And once I had kids of my own... life's perspective changed drastically.

Good for you too, for being mature enough to let this thing between you and the Capt go. Peace all!
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In a word ... headcheese

To be clear with you timbo,

I was speaking from the heart..those words were meant to help you find strength.

Noone has a perfect family... One day you may to need to step out and lead. I wish you the best, but the Capn ain't a punk.

Agreed, no family is perfect...

Cap...you're just a big teddy bear aren't you?

Hahahaha!!!

Gotta luv bugin's joke book... On sale now for only a dollar at your local gas station!