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I was just thinking this morning how easy it is, at least for me, to find annoying flaws in other people...Not annoying things like snoring, but things that people do probably unconsciously that drive others up the wall...Behavior in particular...Things you may not feel are a big deal, but to someone else may be huge...

Do you think there is an easy way to find these flaws..?

Not things like, 'I know I can be stubborn,' but something more along the lines of, 'I know I can be stubborn when someone tells me something new, that is different than what I'm used to, and I insist on not correcting myself...' Very specific type things that maybe only someone else can tell you and other people can verify...Either way, I think they can be crucial improvements to help with your daily relationships...

What do you chaps think..?

In that matter the hardest thing is to identify those excuses we use to validate our acting.
We have them very settled and asumed, and even if we are asked by a close one why we act like that we subconsciously know the existance of a superior reason, ence we consider not worth replying to someone who wouldnt understand it.
But once we realize about our excuses (also known as self-imposed-truth), surely our flaws will painfuly come to light. Fortunately we are prepared to accept them and quickly charge for that other people.

PS: "we" means me and an idealized projection of myself.

EVERYONE has characteristics that can be construed as flaws. Usually, the flaws we hate in others are a sign we are uncomfortable about that implication or tendency in ourselves.

However, life is not therapy, and to constantly monitor the flaws in humans is a lot less fun than say, ANYTHING. Seriously, if the flaws in people are what you see most... I feel sad for you. Take up a hobby that stimulates your attention to detail, and stop objectifying people. The first step in helping people is FOR THEM TO WANT HELP. They will let you know know when they need that, and learn to turn off your "flaw vision" so you can enjoy people around you. More beautiful and useful patterns exist in the Tapestry of Life.

Personally,..
Flaws are AWESOME! They are the most important element in character development, and those that are the products of social failure allow us to enjoy later sucesses~! And most are little more than quirks that create the diversity that makes social interaction worth while.

Agreed, nothing wrong with loving things about a person you don't care for, but what I'm talking about is potentially finding things within your own self that may be, or are likely to be things that bother other people...If you know you snore, as a courtesy you may say, 'Hey man, if I start to snore, please wake me up,' or you may elect to stay in a hotel when you visit a friend, whatever...