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Dealing with fear
Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2009 9:02 pm
by AYHJA
There is no human that is without this emotion...Something, somewhere, strikes fear into even the strongest of us...In books and movies, we see fear grip and mutilate heroes into something they are not...To the untrained mind, fear can destroy you and everything around you...
But fear can also motivate you...Give you power and strength...
What are the ways you deal with fear..? What frightens you..? How would you advise someone who is afraid of something what to do about it...?
Re: Dealing with fear
Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2009 11:29 pm
by darklighter1
I just curl into a ball until the feeling passes....it usually never does so that's why I role most places.
Re: Dealing with fear
Posted: Thu Jan 08, 2009 12:25 pm
by BUTTERFLY
When I'm afraid of something, I totally go crazy, I can't think properly anymore and this kind of statement scares me tons so it becomes an endless circle....That's one of my biggest flaws...
When I have fear I don't feel like myself so for me more than dealing with fear is coping with it... :(
Any suggestions?
Re: Dealing with fear
Posted: Thu Jan 08, 2009 6:28 pm
by raum
Fear is a survival mechanism - like all survival mechanisms, I endure to control and refine it.
I have seen a 5 ton mine drop on the floor of a cargo hold three feet underwater that began to fill up with seawater when the sprinklers were tripped. less than 3 minutes to live if you don't act.
I have wrestled aligators before end of high school, and ate them in jambalaya.
I have walked through a gangwar in Oakland at 4 in the morning. 12 casualties.
I have taken a Triad "Green Bus" in Hong Kong, alone and late at night.
I have picked a fight with an ex-con who had killed a man in fight.
i have been shot at, shot back, stabbed, beaten, run over, fallen from the side of a ship, jumped from the side of a ship, in a waterborne oil fire, a fire in a mainspace, a chemical attack, and I live in constant preparation of a zombie attack since I was nine.
I have worked in security operations, the morgue, the prenatal intensive care unit, the children's morgue, and been imprisoned physcially and financially. i have worked at a women's breast cancer clinic post-op, and i have
There are things I worry about, but nothing I fear. I do use my fear when I need it though. It is a message. See, the word fear is different than "Pachad" - which is the recognition of the danger of something that promotes action and perhaps prevention.
and by the way, the Gaelic word for "Man" is spelled and pronounced "Fear" - that was always on my mind in JFK's famous quote...
Re: Dealing with fear
Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 5:09 am
by kurgan2001
raum wrote:
I have seen a 5 ton mine drop on the floor of a cargo hold three feet underwater that began to fill up with seawater when the sprinklers were tripped. less than 3 minutes to live if you don't act.
I have wrestled aligators before end of high school, and ate them in jambalaya.
I have walked through a gangwar in Oakland at 4 in the morning. 12 casualties.
I have taken a Triad "Green Bus" in Hong Kong, alone and late at night.
I have picked a fight with an ex-con who had killed a man in fight.
i have been shot at, shot back, stabbed, beaten, run over, fallen from the side of a ship, jumped from the side of a ship, in a waterborne oil fire, a fire in a mainspace, a chemical attack, and I live in constant preparation of a zombie attack since I was nine.
I have worked in security operations, the morgue, the prenatal intensive care unit, the children's morgue, and been imprisoned physcially and financially. i have worked at a women's breast cancer clinic post-op
O-M-G ... :hypno: ... are you human?
Re: Dealing with fear
Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 5:21 am
by Sir Jig-A-Lot
I've always wondered that myself.. :silly:
Re: Dealing with fear
Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 5:35 am
by kurgan2001
Honestly .. he must have balls made of brass weighing in at over 10lbs
Re: Dealing with fear
Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 6:02 am
by Sir Jig-A-Lot
Dammit! sorry Jig. I ovverwrote your comment that ny name is hal Jordan... i do this occasionally. at least it wasn't political or you might accuse me of doing it on purpose. heh.
1. I was by grace or chance born among humans; and have no reason to suspect I was not born human myself. ;) I strive to make what that means be more significant each day. I spend time everyday in contemplation of higher development of my being.
2. I live a life of lessons, like we all do. I could make just as many statements that make me sound as cowardly as these make me sound bold. And one man in particular, Kumicho, as a father, has had to demonstrate a lot more bravery than I. There is no evidence I can have children, and I don't really have a parental instinct - though I love children as equals full of potential.
3. Getting stuck with "shit" jobs doesn't make you brave, but getting them done with integrity shows you have bravery. Bravery is not the absence of fear, but the ability to use fear and every other survival instinct to succeed where you might otherwise be
incapable of controlling your actions to the detriment of yourself or others.
4. I almost changed my name to Hal Jordan; true story.
Re: Dealing with fear
Posted: Tue Jan 20, 2009 10:23 pm
by 5829
Somebody once told me this.
Fear is:
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
Which I find to be true for non-real fear - what is termed phobias. But not for real fear. For example if just the sight of an unloaded gun sitting on a table frightens me as opposed to somebody shooting at me.
Me. First I try to avoid the situation. If I can't then I try to run away. If I can't then I have to face it - and do the best I can.
Re: Dealing with fear
Posted: Wed Jan 21, 2009 12:09 am
by darklighter1
Great Caesar's Ghost Raum!! I once got pulled over for speeding in Georgia and got a stern lecture by a police officer and almost turtled....what the hell are you man?!?!?! :o