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Advice To A Stranger: I'm married and in love with another

Posted: Fri Jun 05, 2009 5:24 pm
by AYHJA
I was scouring the net just now and found an article where a woman explains that she's married and in love with another man...Although the note is anonymous, she could be one of several million women with the same problem...So, read it, and then give your advice..!

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A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:
I am a 23 year old female and I have been married for 8 months. My husband and I have been together since I was 18 years old. I was head over heels in love with my husband up until about 7 months before we got married. I am a christian and my husband isn't.

I met a great christian guy who started attending the church I go to. He is divorced and has a daughter. There was a slight attraction, but I stayed faithful to my, then fiance. He warned me about getting married to someone who didn't share the same dreams and goals as me, at least spiritually.

Six months into my marriage, I caught my husband with another woman during a short period of separation. Seeing him with someone else completely tore me apart. It has been extremely difficult to forgive him. Needless to say, I no longer desire him sexually and have an image of him in my mind that he is a loser and will never do anything with his life.

My christian friend and I often communicate through email and at church. We've become very close, although I have never been unfaithful to my husband. I feel like I made a mistake in getting married and now like I'm in love with my friend. We've never actually talked about our feelings, but I notice little things he does to make me happy and try to get my attention.

My attraction to him is killing marriage and my spiritual connection with God. I can't stop thinking about him and find any little reason to email him or call him. What should I do? Should I try to make my marriage work, although I'm miserable? Should I tell my husband about my feelings? Should I tell my friend how I feel? Please help me.

Re: Advice To A Stranger: I'm married and in love with another

Posted: Sat Jun 06, 2009 1:26 am
by darklighter1
Would you happen to be the other man Ube? This seems awfully peculiar, even for a Lakers fan... ;)

Re: Advice To A Stranger: I'm married and in love with another

Posted: Sat Jun 06, 2009 11:10 am
by Sir Jig-A-Lot
Aha! Butt what if Ube was actually The Other Woman?!?..

Re: Advice To A Stranger: I'm married and in love with another

Posted: Sat Jun 06, 2009 2:35 pm
by darklighter1
The Lawnmower Man wrote:Aha! Butt what if Ube was actually The Other Woman?!?..
WHOA! Didn't think of that! Or what if it is Molly that wrote this note in the first place? Could she be looking for a more compatible housemate? Someone that likes the same milkbones as her? And doesn't get mad when she pees on the carpet? Oh the tragedy!!

Re: Advice To A Stranger: I'm married and in love with another

Posted: Sat Jun 06, 2009 2:46 pm
by Sir Jig-A-Lot
Hmmm that lends cred to why Ube didn't wanna be referred to as doG's Favourite instead...

Re: Advice To A Stranger: I'm married and in love with another

Posted: Sat Jun 06, 2009 10:49 pm
by AYHJA
Temp...Perm...IP...Username...

Oh what to do, what to do...cdr...

Re: Advice To A Stranger: I'm married and in love with another

Posted: Sun Jun 07, 2009 8:19 am
by Sir Jig-A-Lot
You'd be bored shitless if you banned me n' Darkie,Ja..

Re: Advice To A Stranger: I'm married and in love with another

Posted: Sun Aug 30, 2009 9:44 pm
by luvbugin
Stupid. Why do people get married if they know its doomed from the start? If she doesn't love her husband, its not fair to him and she should let him go. Trust me, my hubs and I have had our ups and downs, but I have ALWAYS loved him more than anything. That's why we work. If this lady doesn't love her husband, its donesky.

Re: Advice To A Stranger: I'm married and in love with another

Posted: Sun Aug 30, 2009 10:13 pm
by jdog
luvbugin wrote:Stupid. Why do people get married if they know its doomed from the start? If she doesn't love her husband, its not fair to him and she should let him go. Trust me, my hubs and I have had our ups and downs, but I have ALWAYS loved him more than anything. That's why we work. If this lady doesn't love her husband, its donesky.
Because not everyone is intelligent enough to know what is best?

I think she should go ahead and start the divorce process. No need to lower herself by cheating on her husband. Just get a divorce and move on so she can be happy.