The girl in the screen

[BUTTERFLY]

Before starting to write, I'd like to apologize for the grammatical errors I'll make since English is not my motherlanguage...

With Internet I think that a new kind of relationship was born: virtual or cyber engagement...Well, if dating someone means spending much time with him/her, you can fulfill this need with a virtual "engagement" but what you CAN'T DO is, for obvious reasons, kissing, hugging, touching, smelling and having sex to the person who talks to you across the screen...it could seem to be such a curse that we are gonna stop by meeting the person in real life... Anyway some people think that it's nothing but a blessing....
I am one of those people...

When you are with someone physically, you experience something great but most of the time, according to me, people let themselves be blown away by everything which deals with physical area and don't spend much time talking, knowing each other...they neglect the mind and pay attention to the body only..
At the end, the consequence is that you date someone you don't even know...it happened to me...I dated a boy for almost 5 years...at the beginning we were so into each other but actually we used to spend most of our time in a bed...lol....so it came a day when we both realized we didn't know one another so well although we were together 7 days out of 7...I'm not saying that everyone'd behave like that but it's unavoidable to yearn for sex...

I do think that 2 people who would like to date, should spend a lot of time talking without experiencing anything else, because when sex comes, it takes the adventage over a great deal of the rest...
Once they spent a while talking (and for a while I don't mean a couple of days), they can start to experience the flesh...it can be possible, I think, just on Internet...

I know that when you get to know someone on Internet, you wanna meet him/her straightaway but in my opinion, we should not act hastily, on the contrary we should experience a virtual "engagement" first and a real one afterwards....

First you build a house, then you go and live in it...and so should it be for a relationship...

Easier said than done but I think it's the secret ingredient for making a relationship last...Many of you probably will not agree with my idea, anyway I'm glad to share it with you all.

[Sir Jig-A-Lot]

Agreed 110% on building the house first. Otherwise, It will collapse on you if you move in too soon.

[AYHJA]

Couldn't agree more...

For those who might be skeptical, there are several reasons why this make sense...For one, you could live in a place where what you have to choose from is EXTREMELY limited...Of course, you don't have this problem on the net...Also, for some reason, the net seems to have this...Taboo like mystique...As in, you don't know the person, or they could be dangerous...I am pretty sure the ratio of internet dates gone bad to 'meet me at the bar' dates isn't comparable...Furthermore, for reasons Little Fox mentioned, if you can't learn a person though seeing and talking to them daily, you can't know them anyway...

Time will always tell...Many relationships I have been in have failed because of a lack of consistency...Things will always undoubtedly change, but the key is to adjust and adapt...This is MUCH harder to do when you've mixed in physical feelings...What the body creates, the mind must maintain...A relationship created, cultivated, and sustained by a mental connection has a much greater chance to be successful...

Almost all of my relationships have moved quickly...As time goes on, when the quirks start to show, and the newness wears off, problems are born...All of a sudden, uncertainly kicks in, and you react differently to things...And then, here comes the breakup...

I'm not sure if such a thing must occur online, but I'm certain that its easier to accept that you must build your relationship a different way if you're not offered the physical distraction...